Children Matters Solicitor in Nottingham

Child arrangements after separation

Decisions about where children live, how much time they spend with each parent, schooling, holidays and relocation can be difficult to agree. Paulette helps parents understand their rights and responsibilities and explores practical solutions, often through negotiation or mediation, before any court application is considered.

Where agreement cannot be reached, she can advise on applications for child arrangements orders, specific issue orders and prohibited steps orders, and represent you throughout the process.

The child's welfare comes first

The court's paramount consideration is always the welfare of the child. That means considering their wishes and feelings, their needs, the effect of any change, and any risk of harm. Paulette gives realistic advice based on these principles so you can make informed decisions and avoid unnecessary conflict.

Her many years supporting people affected by domestic abuse mean she understands how to handle cases where safety is a concern, sensitively and with appropriate safeguards.

How children arrangements are resolved, step by step

Most parents want to agree arrangements without going to court, and Paulette will always explore that first. She can advise you on what is realistic, write to the other parent on your behalf, or support you through mediation. Agreements can be recorded in a parenting plan setting out where the children will live, how they will spend time with each parent, and how holidays, school and special occasions will be handled.

If agreement is not possible, an application can be made to the family court using Form C100. Before applying, you will usually need to attend a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting, unless an exemption applies, such as where there has been domestic abuse. After the application is issued, Cafcass carries out safeguarding checks and the court lists a first hearing, known as a FHDRA, where the judge tries to help parents reach agreement.

If issues remain, the court may ask Cafcass to prepare a report on the children's wishes and welfare, and may order further evidence. A final hearing is held only if agreement still cannot be reached. Throughout, the court's paramount consideration is the welfare of the children.

Typical timelines

Agreements reached through negotiation or mediation can take a few weeks. Court proceedings are longer: a first hearing is often listed several weeks after the application, and cases that need reports and a final hearing can take six to twelve months or more.

What to prepare

Note your children's ages, schools and routines, and the current arrangements for where they live and how they see each parent. Keep a short, factual record of any important events, such as missed handovers or concerns about safety. Copies of relevant messages between you and the other parent can also help, but focus on what is relevant to the children rather than to the adult relationship.

Common worries

Parents often fear that the court favours mothers or fathers. It does not; the law starts from the presumption that involvement of both parents benefits children, unless that would put them at risk. Others worry about their children being questioned. Cafcass officers are trained to speak with children sensitively, and children are not required to attend court hearings.

Relocation, changes of school and holidays abroad are also common areas of disagreement. Paulette can explain how the court approaches each one, so you know where you stand before decisions are made.

When to get advice

Get advice as soon as arrangements break down or you are worried about your children's safety, and before moving home with them or stopping contact. Acting early can prevent a temporary situation from becoming the established routine.

Support for mothers and fathers

Paulette represents mothers and fathers equally. Whether you want to spend more time with your children, are worried about their safety, or need help agreeing a fair routine, she will listen carefully and help you take the right next step.

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